We Blame Society But We Are Society

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I am obsessed with society. I am obsessed with the idea that society shaped us, perhaps against our will, into the people we are today. I am obsessed with the concept of society being this horrible, hideous place. But, what is society? It is made of the majority. So how can the majority have got it all so horribly wrong?

I am Sheep, Wolves & Pigs.a huge fan of logic; things that make sense. These rules and social conformities put into place by society are not logical in the slightest. We are beginning to speak in words that contradict themselves: “it’s important to be yourself, but no, not quite like that”.

What confuses me more is that it seems as if the minority is rapidly becoming the majority: everyone seems to settle on the idea that society is corrupt, as if they are a part of society, and they fail to realise that it is our own fault society is so messed-up. I mean, let me get this right: society hates…society? We blame society but we are society.

If we make up society and we all disagree with it, why isn’t it changing? Why are we moving backwards instead of using our collective intelligence to evolve? I feel as if disagreeing with society is becoming something that people do to fit in, ironically, with society. Of course, I am not referring to every case, but there are people that state “imperfections are what make you perfect” and then turn around and tear people apart because of the tiniest “imperfection” they have. There are people that say that “judging people is what’s wrong with this world” and then leave people out of their social group because of prejudicial reasons such as appearance.

On the topic of social views on appearance, why do we even still believe in the concept of perfection? Why are we socially constructing these impossible expectations of “beauty”? Why are we teaching young girls that, in order to be beautiful, you must weigh next to nothing? Why are we teaching young girls that physical beauty matters at all? Why is it that half the world are starving to death and the other half are trying to lose weight?

“In nature, nothing is perfect and everything is perfect. Trees can be contorted, bent in weird ways, and they’re still beautiful.”

–      Alice Walker

Back to society speaking in contradictory terms, how is it that what is considered beauty in one part of the world is considered “ugly” in another? It’s the same with fashion: what we consider beautiful and “trendy” now will not long be out of fashion. So, why bother trying to fit in with the trends when we live in a world that is changing its perceptions on beauty every two minutes? Is it not better, and not to forget easier, to be yourself? We are so caught up with trying to look like the models in magazines that we forget who we really are and what we really look like.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

–      Ralph Waldo Emerson

Despite the somewhat pessimistic nature of this post, I do recognise that, as a collective society, we have already come on leaps and bounds. It is no longer the minority fighting for gender equality. It is no longer the minority fighting for racial equality. It is no longer that minority fighting for sexual orientation equality. It is now far for acceptable for a girl to be a “tom boy” in today’s society. But, it almost stops there. Is it acceptable for a man to be in touch with his feminine side? Hardly.

We live in an emotionally broken society. We are unable to get to grips on the world that is evolving around us: homosexuality is normal; the colour of your skin does not define you or make you different; it should not be expected to be “perfect”. Instead, so many of us are object to women breast-feeding in public but have no problem with dozens of magazines covered in half naked women, all Photoshopped within an inch of their lives, that misrepresent the average woman. Instead we still expect a man to adopt a masculine position within society and thwart him from behaving the way he wants to. Instead we are reluctant to allow same-sex couples to start a family. When will this absurdity stop? When will people realise that they are preaching against themselves and taking no action, and when will those who care not even to preach understand that the sentences they spew contradict each other?

I have so many more points to make, but I feel myself rambling. Fear not, I will be back with another post ranting about how confusing this society is – and you can guarantee that I will overuse the word “society” once again. Check out some of my other posts concerning this topic:

Over the Rainbow: Closets Are For Clothes

Let me know all about your thoughts on society in the comment section. Please also consider sharing or liking this post, thanks.



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  1. Hello I have come across the quote you wrote as your heading a few times and recently I have been thinking about what it actually means and why and it got me thinking what do we actually blame society for like I know there’s too many expectations and prejudice etc. but what are we blaming ‘society’ (ourselves) for

  2. Why do people still think that “society” is telling them to be all this? I don’t think I have ever seen a woman tell a girl that she has to weigh this or she is not pretty unless she is modeling for clothing which in that case is necessary because the designer only makes one size. I do not understand blaming “society”. You are not helping any. You are the one that holds yourself to these high standards. “Media” and “society” can influence you, of course, but they are not forcing you to do anything.

    • I understand your point. Everyone is their own person and free to make their own decisions. But, at the same time, the majority of this population find a dire need to “fit in”. It’s not that women discriminate against girls because of their size – although I have seen a case of this which shocked me to extents unimaginable – it’s that being of a certain size or looking a certain way is expected, almost. If you are slightly on the large side, people will judge. Especially young people. People can be very cruel. Hence the desire to fit in and look a certain way is created to escape feeling this way or being vulnerable to becoming a victim. People hold themselves to these high standards in fear of the ridicule and attitude of others if they don’t. There are people in this world (especially a lot of young people) who preach about how different is good but then, when they see someone who is a little different, they ridicule them or exclude them. Everyone’s perception of society is different, for me, society negatively shaping you refers to exactly what I have discussed.

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