Is It Okay To Be Angry?

anger

noun
1. a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility.

Anger is a common emotion. What’s more is that it is a perfectly normal emotion. Everybody gets angry.

Clearly, anger is a natural and common part of life which most people experience some level of on a daily basis.

But, is it okay to be angry?

I think that the question is up to personal interpretation, based on your own experiences and opinions, but, generally, I think it’s perfectly fine to be angry.

Many see anger as a negative emotion that serves little purpose. People tend to view anger as inappropriate as it is generally harmful and useless but it isn’t always a negative emotion.

Anger can signify to a close one that something is wrong and can potentially highlight and clarify a way to move forward and solve the problem. Anger shows others that you care.

The Greek philosopher Aristotle also saw anger as something other than just a negative thought. In fact, he went a step further and displayed his thoughts on how anger was actually good for a person.

“The man who is angry at the right things and with the right people, and further, as he ought, when he ought, and as long as he ought, is praised.”

Perhaps – despite the obvious negative effects of anger – Aristotle was right; maybe anger can be seen as a positive. After all, it is designed to protect us. Anger is there to signify to us that something is wrong and, without anger, passion would be an empty emotion. Of course, you can feel very positively passionate about a topic, but without that anger, there is really nothing – in my eyes – that spurs your passion on. If you deal with anger in the right way, then maybe anger can actually be good for you.

The answer to dealing with anger isn’t to eradicate it from your life; that isn’t possible. The answer is to learn how to try and use it to your advantage or at least define appropriate boundaries when it comes to living with it.

So, despite newspapers linking anger to heart disease, maybe it is okay to be angry. Be angry, but don’t be cruel. Perhaps that is a better motto to teach our children than not to be angry at all. Because anger is a natural emotion – quite like love, sadness and happiness – and children should not be taught that only bad people get angry. It is okay to be angry.

 

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  1. I guess the ideal would be to know when to use anger and show it but to always be in control of it. An example would be when a parent shouts at a kid for doing something dangerous but is not truly angry. It is probably an impossible thing to master though!

  2. NotAPunkRocker June 25, 2014 — 8:29 am

    Anger is fine, it’s what you do with it that matters. “Don’t be cruel” to yourself and others is the most crucial lesson when dealing with it.

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